They Said I should be More Soft-spoken
If You Can’t Beat Them — 1. Join them 2. Quit! 3. Find a way that works for you
They said I should be more soft spoken, very good advice and I will work on it.
I mean definitely.
I should calm down.
And speak as though I was a new bride being introduced to my in laws, or as though I was a traffic offender trying to portray myself as innocent to the road safety officers.
Hide my glare, Straighten my eye brows,
maintain a smile, always ready to nod in agreement. (Heii my God)
I’ve been told several times that I was shouting and that I was rude.
Ah but guess what? all those times, the person was in the wrong and I was correcting them.
I’ve spoken in the same pitch during happy moments but then it wasn’t counted as offensive.
Oh, I do envy those with thin tiny voices you know? The ones you have to strain to hear them speak, it’s really envious.
Even if you were previously angry once you hear that mosquito like voice, you’d calm down.
Is this beginning to sound like I’m ranting?
I mean, I have so many other colleagues and guess what, I have absolutely no problems with the competent ones. Absolutely no problem.
All I can say to myself is to keep trying to be soft spoken. Yes I will try, of course until someone does rubbish. Because my threshold for stupidity is really in the minus ranges. I guess I need to work on increasing the threshold too.
If you’re in a place where the general consensus is that you need to change, here are a few things you can do.
1. Change
There might be an advantage in changing, I mean I could become more soft spoken, more agreeable and more loved by others. Hian! (My mind is confusedly asking if I came here to be loved?)
Please before you decide on any of these choices offered here, ask yourself — What is my goal in life?
I mean I do want to become a better person, hey but you should become a better person on your own terms and certainly not by standards set by other flawed persons.
There could also be a disadvantage in changing, it could destroy you. We are not all made to be soft spoken. I mean, imagine if we all spoke in whispers. There has to be a black swan among all the white ones right? we bring the colour to the story.
2. Quit
This is where the message to keep finding your tribe comes in.
Your tribe is those who get you.
Out there, is a set of people who are smart and intelligent, have similar ethics and principles with you and understand how things ought to work and you deserve to be in that sought of environment.
Sometimes it’s an individual’s problem and other times it’s a systematic problem. Keep your head up, you’ll find the right people and the right system in time. Or you can just create your own!
3. Find a way that Works for You
So I’m definitely not quitting, not joining anybody. I’ll work on being soft spoken while maintaining my principles and standards.
Seriously, also because the Bible says a soft answer turns away wrath. Of course, guaranteed that people are not too stupid in their actions, I’ll try my best!
This wasn’t a rant, I assure you 😜
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