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I would never have thought of myself as a narcissist magnet but here I am, maybe there could be a downside to being knowledgeable about narcissism? I wonder if I often see too many things that others may not have noticed.
Regardless, I’ve had the opportunity of being around a few narcissists. I say opportunity because you get to learn practically what you’ve read about. It’s not a pleasant opportunity to experience gaslighting, triangulation or silent treatment to name a few narcissistic techniques but hey, when life gives you lemons, you’ve got to make lemonade.
And when life goes on and you’ve got your shit back together and retained your humanity and empathy, you realize that the narcissist wasn’t born a narcissist.
Early on life, they probably experienced some sort of trauma which they are yet to be healed from. Trauma which they have yet to accept and which is yet to be dealt with.
They are very much people still deserving of compassion and love. Whether you choose to go no contact or maintain some form of contact, love does make the world go round and you do yourself a favor by choosing to show love instead of hate or indifference.
Our hearts were made for love.
